As a new mom, the idea of leaving your baby for even an instant can evoke feelings of intense anxiety. It’s not that you don’t trust the other caretaker, even if it’s your significant other, it’s just that after nine months of waiting and finally having your baby in your arms, leaving him or her can be downright scary.
But even the most dedicated of mommies need time to recharge their batteries. If you’re feeling stressed and not sure how not to feel anxious about leaving your little one, you’re not alone.
Read on to learn how you can take time for yourself without feeling guilty.
It’s All Part of the Process
Feeling anxious about leaving your baby is perfectly normal. In fact, it’s a healthy sign of attachment. Not wanting to leave your child or constantly worrying about the, when you’re away is all part of being a parent. However, it’s equally important that you take time for yourself.
Not taking time to perform self-care leads to both physical and emotional fatigue, especially is you’re a new mom. And even though you worry, you need to learn ways to cope with being away from baby, even for short periods of time.
Strategies to Beat Separation Anxiety
The first step of being able to “step away” is allowing yourself to feel anxiety. Again, this is expected when leaving your child for the first time. Your focus shouldn’t be on not feeling anxiety; it needs to be on learning how to take care of yourself and trusting the people you leave your baby with.
You also need to remember that everyone has their own way to taking care of children. After you’ve found a qualified caretaker, you need to trust them enough to leave, even if it’s for 30 minutes. One of the biggest obstacles parents face is thinking about “what if” when they are away from their baby.
You also need to stop feeling guilty for needing time away. Just like baby, you need time to rest and recharge. You should never feel guilty for wanting to go out and spend some time with friends or by yourself. Remember, you are more than a dedicated mommy; you’re an individual who has hobbies and interests as well. Being able to enjoy time away from your baby boosts confidence that when you’re gone, everything will be okay.
When it comes to leaving your bundle of joy, understand that’s affecting you far more than it affects them. As long as you’re leaving your baby with someone you trust, know that feeling anxious is all part of the process. After the first few times, you’ll eventually feel less anxious and may even start to look forward to some “me time.”